I have just finished a relationship,and this still affects me…everything you say here,it was there.He never had time for me,always busy,very poor communication,never willing to make plans or to meet,it was always me,like I was pushing for things to happen.I was so confused,thinking I did something wrong,cause at times he was showering me with so much affection.I was in stand by,all the time.I know it’s good it’s finished,but I want to stop thinking of him,making all these scenarios in my head…
Hi Mihaela, thanks for taking the time to comment. What you are going through is so normal - but it's really good to look at it from the standpoint of what you allowed in as well as their mistakes if that makes sense. You did nothing wrong! It's about becoming more aware of our patterns so we look out for these things next time. So that you can start to understand your needs within a relationship and get them met!
If you are interested in working with my, my programme is open for enrolment until Friday 9pm UK time. This will be hugely transformative for your relationship with yourself and others. xx
Thank you for sharing your story about your relationship - I can resonate with this a lot in a recent relationship and trying to get back the version of him in dating. On this path to heal & doing so through writing as well ✨
It also really resonate with me and I somehow realise that I may have a mix of anxious and avoidant attachment style (the avoidant part mostly comes out to protect myself from hurting too much if something goes wrong/a fear of losing my independence and having to compromise too much as I've done in the past being a people pleaser..!
Yes I 100% relate to this. This can be the pressure cooker response when it all gets too much. It can also be to do with having a disorganised attachment style. xxx
I have just finished a relationship,and this still affects me…everything you say here,it was there.He never had time for me,always busy,very poor communication,never willing to make plans or to meet,it was always me,like I was pushing for things to happen.I was so confused,thinking I did something wrong,cause at times he was showering me with so much affection.I was in stand by,all the time.I know it’s good it’s finished,but I want to stop thinking of him,making all these scenarios in my head…
Hi Mihaela, thanks for taking the time to comment. What you are going through is so normal - but it's really good to look at it from the standpoint of what you allowed in as well as their mistakes if that makes sense. You did nothing wrong! It's about becoming more aware of our patterns so we look out for these things next time. So that you can start to understand your needs within a relationship and get them met!
If you are interested in working with my, my programme is open for enrolment until Friday 9pm UK time. This will be hugely transformative for your relationship with yourself and others. xx
https://www.sophiedear.com/the-self-worth-school-self-community
Let me know if you have any questions. x
Thank you for sharing your story about your relationship - I can resonate with this a lot in a recent relationship and trying to get back the version of him in dating. On this path to heal & doing so through writing as well ✨
Thanks for taking the time to read - I am glad you can resonate. I love that you are healing through writing too. xx
It also really resonate with me and I somehow realise that I may have a mix of anxious and avoidant attachment style (the avoidant part mostly comes out to protect myself from hurting too much if something goes wrong/a fear of losing my independence and having to compromise too much as I've done in the past being a people pleaser..!
Yes I 100% relate to this. This can be the pressure cooker response when it all gets too much. It can also be to do with having a disorganised attachment style. xxx
Ooh yes this resonates xx
I’m so glad it resonates Kelly and thank you for taking the time to read xxx